A while back I wrote a blog titled, Suck It Up, Buttercup!, about ways to be more disciplined. There are some really great tips in there, though recently, I’ve implemented a few new strategies that have been working really well for me.
Strategy 1: Becoming Your Highest Self
Start off by visualizing a really clear image of your idealized self. What would you look like, act like, dress like, if you had achieved everything that you want in life.
To get to this vision of yourself, answer the following questions. It’s best to contemplate on these for a period of time. So keep thinking about this over the next month or so to get a crystal clear idea of who you really want to be.
- What would be my ideal job? How would I dress? What would my day look like? What skills would I need to acquire?
- What would my finances look like? How much money do you need before you would be content?
- What would I do with my money? Invest, donate, hoard, spend with reckless abandon, etc.
- Where would I live? In a house, condo, apartment, mansion? What city would I live in? What country would I live in? Would I be able to speak another language?
- What are my hobbies or interests? What would I spend my spare time on?
- What is my disposition? Would I treat people differently? Would I go to different places than I do now? Would I do different things for myself that I don’t currently?
- What would a typical day of mine look like? Where would I go, what would I do, what would I eat?
Once you’ve answered all these questions, and can really picture who you are as your ideal self, then start acting in the present, as if you are already this person.
For me, this is a more generous and caring person, who remains in the present, takes better care of herself and stays focused and gets things done.
So to incorporate “awesome me” into my daily life, I started dressing better each day instead of throwing on whatever. Or when I get home from work and I don’t feel like working out, I now stop and think would my higher self skip a workout? and then I head for the yoga mat. If I don’t feel like writing or researching and just binging on Netflix, I picture my higher self and everything she achieved and see if binging on Netflix fits in that picture… and it doesn’t.
Yes, I understand you may not have the mansion or the clothes or the money yet. But there are definitely ways to incorporate part of that person into your everyday.
If your highest self is fit, then that means they work out on a regular basis. If your highest self is very generous, you may not be able to donate money, but you could donate your time to worthy causes. If your higher self lives in France, start taking French lessons. If your highest self travels, start putting aside as much money as you can spare to save up for that first destination.
I firmly believe that whatever you put out into the Universe is what you attract. So, if you are always upset and bitter, then you attract more things to make you upset and bitter. Wouldn’t it be worth exploring that if you just act like you have everything you want, that you would start attracting things that you really want?
Strategy 2: Little Steps Are Better Than Doing Nothing
We live in a society that thrives on instant gratification. We want everything RIGHT NOW. But making little changes and working them everyday is what adds up to those amazing results and if you are like me, you need to remember that.
Time is going to pass no matter what we do. If you change nothing, nothing will change. If you are doing even the most miniscule step in the right direction, over time it will get you closer to where you want to be than if you did nothing at all.
Bringing this front and center has definitely improved my mood. It doesn’t matter that it’s tiny steps, there is comfort in knowing I’m moving in the right direction.
I notice this the most in regards to my finances. I’m working on getting out of debt and although it is going slowly and I get frustrated, all I need to do is take a moment to realize I’m doing everything I possibly can at the moment and that helps to calm my mind.
Strategy 3: Let Go of Trying to Control the Results
I’ve also nixed the idea that things need to turn out a certain way. For instance, I’m working on launching an online store. I’m hoping it will be a huge success and I can quit my 9 to 5 job.
I’ve been playing with this idea for over a year, so obviously it’s something that I really want to do. But if the outcome has to be that it pulls in enough money for me to quit my job, that feels overwhelming and causes me to start doubting myself.
When I get the store up and working, I imagine I will be incredibly proud of myself. That right there is a huge win. In the past, I’ve let any little bump discourage me from really going after things I want.
I know things take time to build. So once it is up, all I have to do is focus on making one sale…then another…then another. Just focus on the present and one thing at a time.
Even if it brings in an extra $100 a month it will improve my financial life quite a bit. I need to remember that and just enjoy where the journey takes me.
It may not allow me to quit my 9 to 5, but it could lead to something else or be fulfilling on it’s own.
So, go ahead and start acting like you are already the shit, and remember that even the tiniest step in the right direction, done consistently, will get you to where you want to be.